A Woman's Worth, by Elaine Stedman
Chapter 11.
God's Survival Plan
Genesis 3:14-24 is sometimes referred to as "the curse." Read
without negative preconditioning, it is evident that the curse was addressed
to the serpent and to the ground; it was not applied to the man or the woman.
Actually, God instituted a new regime at this time which would protect us
from ourselves. For the woman, he reinforced the authority needed to shield
her in her female vulnerability. To the man he gave the therapy and discipline
of work. In it all, God revealed the way in which the tensions between good
and evil would be resolved within his own redemptive plan. A word from Dorothy
L. Sayers will be helpful here: "God did not abolish the fact of evil:
He transformed it. He did not stop the crucifixion: He rose from the dead."
Hear Jesus' own words:
"For God sent the Son into the world, not to condemn the
world, but that the world might be saved through him." John 3:l7
In the spirit of those words, we have in this Genesis passage not a condemnation
of God's creation, but a plan for its redemption. It is well to remind ourselves
that it simply will not do to be defensive with God. He is not the enemy;
we are. He only seems our enemy when we oppose him, and resisting him we
oppose ourselves.
This Genesis passage is both prescription and description; that is, in it
the Lord God is prescribing the cure to conflict as well as tracing the
course of human relationships. He begins by addressing evil personified
in the serpent, and, to symbolize its humiliating defeat, sentences it to
crawling on its belly, eating dust. And dust is humanity without the life
of God. We are vulnerable to evil only when apart from Him. Satan brought
off his great con of the woman when she met him alone; Adam surrendered
the integrity of his headship when he encountered the woman alone. The race
fell in Adam, who chose to be motivated by the woman, who chose to be motivated
by the serpent, who usurped God's prerogative to motivate his people to
work for his good pleasure (Philippians 2:13).
Now God reinstates the order of headship by declaring an end to the coalition
between the serpent and the woman, exposing him as a figure-head, and declaring
open warfare between the two:
"Then the Lord God said to the woman, 'What is this that
you have done?' The woman said, 'The serpent beguiled me, and I ate.' The
Lord God said to the serpent, 'Because you have done this, cursed are you
above all cattle, and above all wild animals; upon your belly you shall
go, and dust you shall eat all the days of your life. I will put enmity
between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall
bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel'" (Genesis 3:13-15).
What blind unbelief, what satanic delusion, has prevented us from seeing
the tender love, the forgiving grace of God, restoring the woman to dignity
and worth as the means by which he would enter the stream of humanity and
purify it with his redeeming death and life? The promised seed of the woman
who would conquer Satan is the Son of God, the Lord Jesus Christ, born of
Mary, the virgin--born of woman! No, God did not condemn the woman; he forgave
her, restored her perspective and reinstated her to the security of his
loving authority. Another day Jesus would extend such mercy to a woman taken
in adultery: "...neither do I condemn you! Go, and sin no more."
In a world rampant with chaos, childbirth can seem futile, if not disastrous,
to human reasoning. If life is a tyrannical trap, a futile maze of meaningless
choices, then the biological function of producing another human being is
without significance. Extinction becomes the preferred alternative to functioning
as a "baby machine," and thus perpetuating the human tragedy.
It becomes a question of sheer faith. Either we believe in the answers or
non-answers of science and philosophy and react inevitably with despair,
or we must believe that God is "nearer to us than breathing, closer
than hands and feet," and that this personal God is in sovereign control
of human affairs.
This personal, sovereign God addresses the woman. This time he addresses
her first. One reason is that the topic is now God's redemptive plan in
which woman will figure prominently as the instrument of the Incarnation.
Only the redemptive intervention of God in Jesus Christ will give significance
and meaning to the survival of the human race, and dimension, therefore,
to motherhood.
But we so easily forget that life is a fragile and precious gift from God,
that the act of procreation is a serious and sensitive function of our humanity
necessitating godly wisdom and perspective. "Thou didst knit me together
in my mother's womb," is the reverent declaration of the psalmist,
giving the dimension of worship to the function of reproduction. This worship
acknowledges that in it all God is at work to bring order and meaning to
life. In The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis says, "God whispers
to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains;
it is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world."
The pain of childbirth, and indeed of child-rearing, is divinely designed
to draw us back to the source of Life and Love and Wisdom without which
we flounder hopelessly in our inadequacy. If "the hand that rocks the
cradle rules the world", the global redemption of motherhood is long
overdue and we need desperately to return that rule to the hand of our Creator-Father,
so that we in turn may learn of him what our intended functioning is and
be fulfilled in it.
"To the woman he said:
'I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain,
you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband,
and he shall rule over you'" (Genesis 3 :16,17).
The Lord God now gives the therapy, creativity and discipline of work to
both the woman and the man, but in different contexts, consistent with their
sexuality. Childbearing will be the biological norm for the woman, the implications
of which must necessarily invade her entire psycho-sexual function. The
entire procreative process, from conception through lactation, deeply involves
the woman in the nurturing of life, an intimate relatedness which can hardly
be severed by cutting the umbilical cord.
Doris Lessing, quoted in Harper's magazine, July, 1973, says, "I
know a lot of girls who don't want to get married or have children. And
very vocal they are about it. Well, they're trying to cheat on their biology....It
will be interesting to see how they're thinking at thirty." It is difficult
to deny that a woman's creativity is largely involved with relationships
and with the nurturing of life, symbolized and exemplified by the physical
act of childbearing. When we soberly face the demands of motherhood, we
may well be driven to despair or evasion, nonetheless the creative urge
is undeniably there. God designed it not only for the perpetuation of the
race but also for our human fulfillment as we demonstrate the mother aspects
of God's character in society.
To assure a fruitful and complementary relationship with the man, the woman
is given desire for her husband. The character of that desire will determine
the kind of rule exercised by her husband. We may as well acknowledge here
that biblical and secular history both record the results of man motivated
by woman, beginning with Adam, who responded to Eve's desire rather than
to his own objective appraisal and his spiritual responsibility. Many battles
have been fought over a woman whose lustful and self-centered desire has
provoked a raging conflict among men to possess her. Much is being said
today about women enslaved by men, with little outcry against predatory
and designing females. Men may, on the whole, protest but feebly because,
as a wise man once told me, men are not really deceived by this approach
they simply like the ego-trip. It is, however, a serious perversion of womanhood,
and one which the Scriptures everywhere attempt to correct, with such words
as "modesty," "decorum," "sensible," "seemly"
(not seedy!), "serious," "temperate," "faithful,"
"well attested for good deeds," "devoted to doing good in
every way," "chaste," and "reverent."
These are not negative words. They describe a godly woman, the woman who
is the glory of man, the flower of humanity, who in turn motivates men to
godliness, "without a word," as Peter says. The godly and mature
woman's chief desire for a man is that he should be godly and mature. I
believe a woman motivates a man to godliness not so much by bringing him
to God as by bringing God to him, through a life that consistently tells
the story of God's giving, sacrificial love. She motivates him to be a godly
father by being a godly mother. She motivates him to emotional stability
and tranquillity by being peaceful in her inner spirit, evidenced in gentleness
and quietness. It is legitimate to desire him to be a good lover, as well,
since that is a part of his own fulfillment. And good lovers are motivated
by good lovers.
I am told that the Hebrew word for "rule" suggests a possible
retaliatory connotation. A woman whose desire for her husband is centered
in self-interest may badger him into resigning his headship or becoming
tyrannical. A female letter writer in Psychology Today suggests an
alternate form of dominance: "It's better to let them think they're
king of the castle, lean and depend on them, and continue to control and
manipulate them as we always have." This kind of pseudo-submission
knows nothing of the dignity of servanthood, and is just as effective in
defrauding a man as is a more overt form of dominance.
And to Adam he said:
"Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and
have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, 'You shall not eat of it,'
cursed is the ground because of you; in toil you shall eat of it all the
days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth to you; and
you shall eat the plants of the field. In the sweat of your face you shall
eat bread till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; you
are dust, and to dust you shall return" (Genesis 3: 17-19).
A man's creativity is largely involved with his work. I believe work is
given to man as a therapy, and an outlet for sexual energy. It is interesting
that men who think of themselves largely as "studs" are known
as "play-boys." The way in which a man approaches his work is
critical to his development as a mature man.
Mr. Gilder, in July 1973, Harper's magazine has stated that a man
is dependent upon woman to tie him into the family unit. The Scriptures
tell us how she can do this: by giving him headship in the home! A man who
is the acknowledged head of his home will not be inclined to make his work
his mistress. He will be motivated to provide for his family by means of
his work, but he will not need to use his work to define his sexuality.
If he has a home base in which his emotional, physical, and spiritual needs
are acknowledged and lovingly attended, then he will be free to view his
work as an outlet for his creativity, but without using it to displace his
family function and enjoyment. A home which is in a state of upheaval and
disorder will either disorient him so that he cannot work or cause him to
take refuge in his work as an escape.
Again, a man is motivated in his view of work by the woman's view of her
work. The industrious, creative, secure woman of Proverbs 31 provides an
atmosphere of strength and dignity. Her wisdom, kindness and inner beauty
provide emotional security for her husband ("the heart of her husband
trusts in her"). The Living Bible adds "and she will richly satisfy
his needs." Her husband is thus freed for leadership: "he sits
among the elders of the land."
There are thorns and thistles in everything we do. We work in a hostile
environment. The perils of working in today's industrial society are certainly
no less demanding than in an agrarian culture. The tensions and pressures
symbolized as thorns and thistles are used as God's goads to maturity. Blessed
is the man who finds an uncritical, sympathetic and alert listener in his
home at the end of a day's toil. A woman who cares, who will pray with him
through his stresses, is a balm in Gilead, a healing mercy. She can, by
her example of an inner, spiritual calm and responsive gentleness, set the
behavioral tone for the household.
It would be well for us to be aware of certain crisis periods through which
both men and women pass, having to do with performance frustration. For
the man, one of the most critical, psychologists say, is approximately age
40, give or take a few years. It is a kind of vista point from which he
views the past and the future. The disparity between what is and what he
had dreamed can be troubling. A woman's most unsettling time often coincides
with major changes in the home structure, such as children leaving for college
or marriage, or a geographical uprooting. Secular research can be valuable
to an understanding of symptoms during these critical periods. However,
we must know that these periods of stress graphically demonstrate the need
to know who we are in terms of God's loving and wise purpose for our lives.
Who we are rests upon who He is and not upon what we do. Our intimacy with
God and his purpose for our humanity will be the focal point of our security
and stability for such times as these.
Dorothy L. Sayers, quoted in A Matthewer of Eternity, writes: "The
Church's approach to an intelligent carpenter is usually confined to exhorting
him not to be drunk and disorderly in his leisure hours, and to come to
church on Sundays. What the Church should be telling him is this: that the
very first demand his religion makes upon him is that he should make good
tables. Church by all means, and decent forms of amusement, certainly--but
what use is all that if in the very centre of his life and occupation he
is insulting God with bad carpentry? No crooked table-legs or ill-fitting
drawers ever, I dare swear, came out of the carpenter's shop at Nazareth."
True, we do not establish our identity through performance, but in the same
way that "faith by itself, if it has no works, is dead" (James
2:17), so we evidence who we are by the diligent, orderly, creative function
of our God-given abilities. If a choice must be made between financial affluence
and work which suits the temperament, talents and spiritual gifts of either
man or woman, then the truly godly choice will surely be to honor our humanity
and live within the framework of who we are. In the beautiful words of Matthew
6:25-34, Jesus taught us to live with simplicity, an art for living which
has been swallowed up in our materialistic society. In some families the
man's only motivation to work is overspending or the mismanagement of household
affairs, with the result that the man is so driven by financial indebtedness
he is literally swallowed up by the necessity to provide materially for
his family. Sometimes, then, the wife will also take a job, and the children
are virtually orphaned, family communication breaks down, and spiritual
goals are abandoned.
Your heavenly Father knows that you need to be fed and clothed, Jesus says,
but anxiety concerning these needs belies our trust in Him and gives priority
to the transient, temporal things, rather than to the eternal realities
of the spirit. The Apostle Paul reminds us, in 1 Corinthians 7: 28-35, that
even the proper desire to please one another in marriage can be perverted
with anxiety and pre-empt our primary reason for life: undivided devotion
to the Lord. I believe we need to make periodic evaluation of the encroachment
of worldly affairs in our lives. The work and worry syndrome, which never
satisfies the insatiable demand for more and more things, fritters our God-given
lives away on the nothingness of worldly status. In such a materialistic
rat-race, we bear only "the image of the man of dust," by-passing
the satisfaction and eternal glory of bearing "the image of the man
of heaven" (1 Corinthians 15:45-50).
"The man called his wife's name Eve, because she was the
mother of all living. And the Lord God made for Adam and for his wife garments
of skins, and clothed them. Then the Lord God said, 'Behold, the man has
become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, lest he put forth
his hand and take also of the tree of life and eat, and live for ever"'
--therefore the Lord God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till
the ground from which he was taken. He drove out the man; and at the east
of the garden of Eden he placed the cherubim, and a flaming sword which
turned every way, to guard the way to the tree of life" (Genesis 3:20-24).
Until now, the woman is simply called Woman, translated from the Hebrew
Ishah, which means "Out of Man." Now Adam changes her name to,
Chavah, which means Life. Eve is the English translation of Chavah.
Adam may be affirming and assenting to Eve's believing response to God's
promise of triumph over Satan and his seed by the seed of the woman, the
Lord Jesus Christ, and all who through his atoning death and saving life
are assured victory with him over the evil one. There will now be two divisions
of humanity: those in Adam and those in Christ.
From the beginning the Lord God assured a nobility to womanhood, an intimate
and sensitive role in his redemptive plan. All Scripture which is pertinent
to the role of women will fit within this basic framework. The female mode
is dedicated by God to a unique expression of redemptive life. There will
be protective safeguards, as the Father-God guards the moral purity of woman,
the symbolic bride of Christ.
With his questioning, God had led Adam and Eve to confess "and I ate."
"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just, and will
forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
God then acted immediately to deal with their sin. The skins with which
God clothed them necessitated the death of animals. This was God's preview
of the way in which he would ultimately bear for us all the agony and cost
of our rebellion,
".. the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world"
(John 1:29).
Incidentally, Isaiah chapter 53, that exquisite passage predictive of our
Lord's atoning death, contains a sensitive and highly suggestive imagery
in verse 7:
"He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened
not his mouth; like a lamb that is led to the slaughter, and like a ewe
that before her shearers is dumb, so he opened not his mouth."
I am told that the female sheep, or ewe, when faced with danger, has the
ability to run, while the male sheep's legs "freeze" in similar
circumstances. Thus, a ewe unresistant before her shearers would picture
a willing submission, confirming what we have already seen in Philippians
chapter two.
Adam and Eve were limited, finite creatures before their defiance of God,
but they were perfectly contented and totally fulfilled, with no sense of
inadequacy, frustration or failure. Their humanity was totally possessed
by the life-giving love of their Father-God, and this state of perfect fulfillment
is symbolized in their unashamed nakedness. Severed from their source of
life and love and faced with their resultant inadequacy and guilt, they
misappropriated one of God's own gifts to them to contrive. a cover-up for
their shame. Fig leaves, magnanimous and beautiful but lifeless apart from
the tree, portray so well our efforts to live fruitful and fulfilled lives
apart from God. Our best efforts are like roman candles on the fourth of
July, a loud noise, a brief moment of glory and the inevitable fizzle.
God offers to replace our shabby human efforts with the impeccable righteousness
of his Son, so that thus clothed we may be acceptable before God, free to
enjoy the love relationship with him which assures our identity and sense
of worth.
But the Pandora's box has been opened by their disobedience. God knows the
self-imposed curse of self-centeredness with which they have been infected.
Only God can judge good and evil by himself, for he is Good. When we make
our self-interest the criterion for good, we have a formula for disaster.
We have polluted our humanity and our whole environment with our self-centered
focus. It would be unthinkable that we should live endlessly in this state!
Anticipating this, God sent the man out of the garden of Eden and guarded
that access to the tree of life. Significantly, he directs both the charge
and the dismissal from the garden to the man, again acknowledging his governmental
headship. In leaving with Adam, Eve acknowledged both God's authority and
Adam's headship.
It is generally agreed that the cytoplasm of the ovum is not mortalized;
that it is mortalized only in union with the sperm. At any rate, the Scriptures
teach that humanity was infected by sin through Adam (Romans 5: 12), but
a new birth is possible by faith "not of perishable seed but of imperishable,
through the living and abiding word of God" (2 Peter 1:23). Jesus Christ,
born of woman, conceived by the Holy Spirit, is the Living Head of the new
humanity. In him we possess life, abundant and eternal.
Submissive to our Living Head, we may experience the deep healing of our
humanity. God will deal with the root-issues, our attitudes toward him,
ourselves and others. Every encounter with another person is an encounter
with Christ: the cup of cold water given in His name, or the bitter thrust
of criticism or hostility. A simplistic fashioning of fig leaves stamped
"I'm okay, you're okay," will be only a temporary expedient, a
brief lull in the storm, if it does not issue from a heart conquered by
God's love, forgiveness and acceptance.
The built-in tensions of life can be creative or destructive. The pain,
the thorns and thistles, are the ever-present reminders of humanity's limitations,
that "all we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned everyone to
his own way." "Weeds are nature's way of filling a vacuum,"
a gardener told me. The remedy, he suggests, is a closely woven pattern
of "good" plants.
Temperamental, cultural, racial, sexual differences between people are the
stuff of which our daily lives consist. There is also the necessary authority
structure: teacher-student, government- citizen, parent-child, husband-wife,
etc. In it all there is what the Apostle Paul calls "the law of sin
and death," and what science refers to as the law of entropy (i.e.
inexorably increasing randomness or disorder). It is sheer realism to state
that life is not fundamentally romantic, but basically tragic, and in constant
need of redemption. Pessimism and despair say there are no answers, no solutions.
Romantic idealism seeks the pot of gold at rainbow's end. Christian idealism
is grounded in the integrity and character of God, a quality of life which
he offers to us in a growing, maturing relationship of love and trust.
The quality of that life, described as "love, joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control" (Galatians
5:22,23) will invade the vacuum in our individual lives and in society,
resolve tensions creatively, and reverse life's entropy by the redemptive
power of the resurrection. The method to appropriating that kind of life
is in knowing the One in whom it resides, the Lord Jesus Christ, knowing
him as First Cause and First Love!
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